August 8, 2009

  • Rejection: Why YOU MUST FACE IT

    Rejection. My favourite topic. NOT. Anyways, after being hated on, or rejected by my past friends...I have slowly...gradually, come to terms with being rejected. It is not as bad as it looks. Sure, it is bad, but eh? What can you do? This is life. Life is not fair, deal with it boys and girls. I have had that experience almost all of my life, and so, naturally, I know what it is like.

    After being kicked out of your ex's life, who was also your best friend...this is as worse as worse can get. It cannot possibly get any worse than this, and to suggest that it might get worse is a lie. I have prepared myself well for my impending doom with my former best friend through Cadet discpline, and perservering patience, and also - I had the experience many times in my past.

    As humans, being rejected is simply a normal part of life. Nothing special. Although in one or more particular instances, we tend to make a big deal out of it. I am coming to terms with this fact. I am helpless in this fact, because there is nothing I can do about it, no matter how much I would like to. In fact, I accept rejection, and am not afraid of it. There is nothing to lose for me, at least, because I have lost all that I possibly could have lost. Now, since I have nothing to lose, there is everything to gain...although, we must also not be too wishful about this situation. It is necessary that we be patient, as always, and persevere.

    It is no good to engage in too much wishful thinking either. It is instead - absolutely essential that I deal with rejection in a more moderate manner - maturity. That way, I do not come out as a fucking idiot. It is not worth either the risks nor the rewards to act like an ass. It is crucial that I be stoic and humble about all this.

    Love can blind us, but reason can open our eyes to the reality of the world. Both need to work together in order to achieve whatever common objectives both are concerned about. Emotions and Reasons must work together to bring about tolerance, even humility in the face of rejection, or denial. We must not be afraid. We must be courageous, brave, and bold.

    Love is what we all want as humans. Where we disagree is how we approach it. My answer is pragmatic prudence and subtle secrecy.

     

    Love, Secrets and Honors

     

    Xinyu Hu